How Ika People Marry

Marriage among the Agbor people, like other Ika kingdoms, is a deeply traditional and cherished institution involving various stages that reflect the kingdom’s customs, respect, and family values. Here’s a look at the key steps in the traditional marriage process for Agbor people:

1. Introduction (Iku Aka or Knock on the Door)

This is the initial step, where the groom, accompanied by his family, formally introduces himself to the bride’s family. They bring gifts such as kola nuts, drinks, and a token sum of money as a sign of goodwill. This meeting is to seek the family’s consent and establish a friendly relationship between the two families.

After the introduction, the groom’s family will present their marriage intentions formally. The bride’s family discusses the proposal and, if in agreement, accepts it. This stage allows the bride’s family to assess the groom’s character and intentions for their daughter.

3. Payment of the Bride Price (Ime Ego)

The groom’s family pays the bride price, which is a traditional requirement and seen as a symbolic gesture. The amount is usually negotiable and based on agreements between the families. It’s meant to show respect and appreciation rather than serve as a purchase, and the bride price reflects the value placed on the bride’s upbringing.

4. Traditional Engagement Ceremony

The engagement is a festive gathering where the bride and groom publicly declare their commitment to each other. The groom’s family presents additional gifts, which may include wrappers, jewelry, food items, drinks, and sometimes livestock, depending on the agreement. The ceremony includes cultural performances, dances, and blessings from elders.

5. Marriage Blessing (Ijibodo)

The couple receives blessings from the elders and their families. This is one of the most significant parts of the ceremony, as the blessings are seen as essential for a fruitful and harmonious marriage. Prayers and rituals are performed to honour ancestors and request their protection over the union.

6. Presentation of the Bride (Idinye Uno)

In some cases, after the engagement and traditional blessing, there’s a formal presentation where the bride is ceremoniously handed over to the groom’s family. This presentation symbolizes the union of both families and the bride’s transition into her new household.

7. Reception and Celebration

The marriage is celebrated with a large feast, dancing, music, and cultural performances. Family members, friends, and community members come together to celebrate the union, and the celebration may extend into the night.

8. Post-Marriage Visits and Traditions

Following the marriage, the bride and groom visit each other’s families, a practice known as Igba Nkwu, to solidify family bonds and allow both families to become better acquainted.

The Agbor traditional marriage ceremony is not just about the union of two individuals; it’s about bringing together two families and fostering a strong, supportive community around the newlyweds. The marriage customs emphasize respect, mutual understanding, and adherence to cultural values that strengthen family and community ties.